Thursday, July 5, 2012

In Tending

I learned something about myself this week. I don't "tend" myself. When I say tend, I mean give attention and intention to. I don't really do special things to make sure I feel good, strong, full. I fail to show the universe I am worthy of energy, because I put little into myself. I am an afterthought. Sure my husband does things for me, and my babies? Well just their presence is very medicinal. Yet those are other people, and I don't believe in burdening another with the task of filling me up. Ultimately it is my responsibility, and I am going to take it more seriously. I am going to tend myself/ my life as I would tend the Earth.  Being gentle, watering and pulling weeds all with love and gratitude.

photo: the Badger

One of my favorite things to do is hang laundry on the clothesline. I think back to when I was a young girl and I would run through sheets hanging on the line, that was a magic time in my life. I am able to cultivate that magic now when I am doing the laundry, and I feel so at peace, so thankful for everything in my life. I don't notice the heat or the bugs or distracting thoughts. I am able to stay fully present. Its as if a window is open yet there is a screen and I feel the breeze but all the bugs can't get through. Hanging clothes is my zen work, and doing zen work is great tending. 
Since Mon is taking a break from Keeping it Real and my Friday's are open I thought this would be a great opportunity for some tending. 

These are some things I am doing to fill myself...

I am reading this book and so far I love it! 
Of course I am hanging laundry
Stitching Little Birdie's 2nd Birthday quilt
Dancing to
A New by Little Dragon on Grooveshark

It is more than just doing these things, it is the intention behind the doing. Each of these things are done with much intention, as if it is a sacred ritual. Putting love and energy into my precious babies' mama, what could be more sacred than that?!

I would love to hear the things you are doing for yourself, to fill you up and tend your light. You deserve it. 


  1. i dare you to run through the sheets!

  2. I am writing in my journal every morning (unless I'm traveling). I try to knit at some point in my day either afternoon or evening. Keep in mind my kids are older so I have more time for my own pursuits. I love that you are focusing on you :)

    1. Journal writing is so healing, and I am learning to knit and I can see it being so therapeutic.

  3. love that image of you hanging up the laundry
    tending to self
    so important
    this month I am tending to myself by parking our travel trailer up in the forest by a creek
    I can't be up there the whole time because of work BUT I did widle my work schedule down to 2 days a week
    and I hope to be up there for the majority of the rest of the time
    this is totally tending to myself : )
    and I am grateful for a husband who supports such things
    : )
    Happy Weekend Mama
    Peace to you

    Love and Light

    1. How wonderful!!! Enjoy, enjoy! Amen to supportive husbands :)

  4. Beautiful concept, Jess. I'm not great about self-tending either, but I'm working on it and love that you are giving yourself some love and attention, too. Your light is a bright one, I can tell even from afar, so you're doing for more than just yourself when you feed it.

    The one thing I have just started is asking the husband to free me up for a few hours of "me" time every weekend, which will likely be spent at my favorite coffee shop, writing or reading. Ooh, but tomorrow I go for a pregnancy massage! :)

    1. Thank you Melissa <3 The difference in myself when I make a purposeful effort to tend myself is so huge, it has to be a priority now.
      Me time is so vital. I hope the massage was great!

  5. Sweet, mama.
    It's hard for me to get "me" time. Mine just consisted of putting them in front of a video- which I hardly EVER do- just so I could clean the house alone!


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